11. Aren't you afraid of being caught/read? Which of us T-people isn't afraid of being caught? I stand to lose a lot if I
do: My job, my male ordination, and possibly my S.O. It's a chance I have to take, same as you. As for being read…well,
we all have bad hair days, sweetie. I have been read more than once, and it isn't the end of the world. It is humiliating,
though. Deal with it...I do.
12. Are you really an Almost-Angel, T-Girl Genius, and Ultra-Flirt? (This phrase is on this website and on my business
cards.) Next question, please…! J An Ultra-Flirt, definitely. Almost-Angel, sometimes (and sometimes I'm an Angel with
an attitude!). T-Girl Genius…depends on the topic. I know enough about a lot of things to qualify for that. I am not a rocket
scientist, nor a brain surgeon. However, in my current place of employment, I was hired to think…a lot.
13. Do you think that TG people have a bright future? That depends on the individual TG. We all have a role to play,
and need to play it well. We have to bust out of the stereotypical "drag queen" image that the media has foisted upon
us for so long. (I do not wish to offend anyone who considers themselves to be a drag queen; you know who you are
and what I mean.) Those of you who are going FTM have a little bit of an easier time; our society is willing to accept
masculine traits over feminine. We all have our work cut out for us, though.
14. `fess up…this whole TG thing is sexually charged for you, isn't it? Quite frankly, no. There are a lot of sexual
thrills out there, but doing what I do, every day, 24/7/365 is NOT a sexual thrill. Besides…do you understand the
amount of money that gets spent? I mean…past the bras and panties, I have to replace my hose every so often
(they run eventually), the same with makeup (it either goes bad or runs out), the hormones (we won't even TALK
about that!) plus weight loss plan (I'm below 170 pounds as of this writing; I'd like to drop down to about
160-165 or so), clothes, etc. Plus, I pay 4.95 a month to get the ads off this website. If this is a sexual thrill, it's the
most expensive one I have ever seen, honey! J
15. Do you ever do drag shows, or compete in drag contests? No. I don't do drag…I really live this. As one that lives as
a woman a good deal of the time, I don't need to do the diaphanous gown and Tammy Faye makeup routine. Like any
other woman, I like comfy clothes, and other nice things. Do you do Miss America contests?
16. I'm thinking of doing the same thing you are. Where would you recommend I start? Go to my links page; there is a
link to the Gender Test Center. TAKE THE TESTS, AND BE AS HONEST AS POSSIBLE. This is important, trust
me on this, honey. If you have done so and feel you really want to go on, then buy my book. It really is full of tips to help
you get started. There is one other thing…take your time as you go. Just because your scores are high does NOT
mean you need to shipwreck your life over this. You may need counseling; you may have issues, or you may find the
thought sexually stimulating. Ask yourself this…is this really worth the potential of ruining my life over?
17. Most TG's have issues. Do you have any, and if so, what are they? One more time: I have no issues. I wasn't
abused as a child (I was as an adult, but that is another story and has been long resolved), my parents are still
married and treated us kids well, I did quite well in school, and so forth. Theoretically speaking, I am rather well-adjusted.
18. Will we ever get to read about how you got to be who you are? Yes and no. When I first set this website up, I wasn't
going to go there. But so many of you have said that theyfelt that they could learn much from my mistakes, I have
19. I'd like some help in working through issues. Are you willing to help me? Yes...and maybe. I am a trained counselor,
that is what one of my earned doctorates is in. So I am more than willing to listen and at least point you in a direction. I
will be more than happy to do so for a time, via e-mail. I recommend you find a counselor trained in Transgender theory,
however. I can only help you where I have gone myself.
20. I'm just getting started...If we were talking face to face, what three pieces of advice would you give me?
(**sigh**...I knew this was coming...) Okay, three bits of advice I would give to anyone starting out would be...
First of all, DON'T. Don't go here if you haven't thought through the potential ramifications. Don't start if all this is
going to be is a big sexually charged thing. There really are cheaper ways to get off. Don't come here if you took the
COGIATI for the first time and scored some really high number and had never considered this lifestyle before. In
short...don't ruin your life without at least thinking this through. I have; most of us have...and determined that this is
right for us. It may not be right for you.
Two: is actually two sides of the same coin. The first: THINK. Use your brain. The other is: USE COMMON SENSE.
It's like I have said elsewhere: Don't go somewhere and call attention to yourself. If you go to work en femme, it will not
go well for you, unless it's costume day. You have a brain, so use it. Think smart, and you will save yourself much grief
and pain. Don't go out to a store and buy $350 worth of women's clothes just on a whim, unless you live alone. Don't go
to church in a skirt...I don't care how good you look. Don't go out anywhere en femme if you know there is a good
chance you'll get caught.
Third: GO SLOW. I didn't become the way I am now overnight, and I have miles to go yet. Even the most advanced
of us are still working out one bug or another. (Some of us more than others!) This is a journey, not a sprint. Take time
to see yourself in a new light.
